Why does everyone think single women or single moms need a survival guide for Valentine’s Day? There are 16 million entries that come up in Google Search for “survival guide for Valentine’s Day.” If you don’t have the tools necessary to manage yourself why should anyone put up with your hot mess? You don’t need to SURVIVE since this is not a war zone (unless you created that in your head). Don’t be afraid to to shine like the great white light that you are on the one day out of the year devoted to love. Spread that joy around for another 364 days. Dave Mann founder of Sweet Tea Pumpkin Pie – a music review site based out of DC said this in response to my question about his thoughts on Valentine’s Day,
“i think v-day is cool for elementary school aged kids. Cause they don’t care about the commercial side of it. there are really no strings attached with those young kids. all they want is to know that they have a valentine and most of the kids (if not, all?) give valentines to each other. personally, i think v-day should have stopped after elementary school..possibly the term “it’s complicated” started with valentines day, it should never be complicated, right?”
I AGREE Mr. MANN!
This is my Anti-Survival Guide to Valentine’s Day. After reading stories about surviving the day when you are alone I was wondering what everyone did on the other 364 days they are alone? I was browsing around Craig’s List Personals ads as they are close to the bottom feeder of personals that I have ever seen in my life and I decided to do a search for the term, “Valentine’s Day!” I was surprised at the number of men and women putting out personal ads that they are available for a date on Valentine’s Day.
Some with the headline of “I want to get wasted on Valentine’s Day” to “I’m looking for a Valentine’s Day date to disappoint this year.” if that works for you go for it, but let’s look at the facts. Approximately 1 in 5 people get dumped on Valentine’s Day and 1 in 6 people get cheated on or cheat on Valentines’ Day. According to the same survey by AYI.com, a ton of people would go out on a blind date on Valentine’s Day with 51% of women and 70% of men willing to take the risk on Valentine’s Day.
To gain insight on this year’s Valentine’s Day, online dating site AYI.com surveyed over 1,000 people and analyzed over 55,000 responses to some of their most popular multiple-choice questions.
Would I go out on a blind date on Valentine’s Day? No. overpriced entrees, long wait times, cold food and couples on their smartphones as we all jam pack together in a crowded restaurant is not my idea of fun.
Opt for ordering takeout from a great restaurant and create a great setting at home without the rush and commotion. My favorite choice is Outback Steakhouse. They have some good specials but I would NOT dine in that evening. A boyfriend of mine in 2001 went to Outback for Valentine’s Day and waited hours for a table. They have conveninent online ordering and you can drive by and pick it up.
The Steak Menu for Two includes a Bloomin’ Onion appetizer and Classic Cheesecake to share, paired with two of Outback’s favorite steak entrées.
-Two 6-ounce sirloins
-Two 9-ounce sirloins
-Two 6-ounce filets
-One Bone-in Ribeye & one filet, one of Outback’s most popular combos
-And for a truly impressive meal, lobster tails are 50% off when added on to any of the above
Plus, for those in need of more than a great meal this Valentine’s Day – perhaps to make up for a past Valentine’s Day fail – enter the #BloominDoOver sweepstakes for a chance to win a $50 Outback gift card for a date do-over. Beginning Monday, Feb. 10th, enter to win by following @Outback and sharing a date disaster story (Valentine’s or otherwise) via Twitter using the hashtag #BloominDoOver. 10 winners will be selected at random each day from Feb. 10th – 13th, and 20 winners will be selected on Feb. 14th. So Visit OutbackOnlineOrdering.com and order now.
Would I go get a cup of coffee on Valentine’s Day? yup – quick and easy for a blind date if I treated VDAY like any other day. This is also great for first dates which is what a blind date is?
No Love Interest? I love coffee and so a great gift would be Trader Joe’s Coffee or just stopping by the house of a friend or family member and enjoying a cup of tea or coffee with them. Add some cookies or brownies and you have a sweet treat
For Single Parents, what would make a great Valentine’s Day Date?
How about a family date? Nothing says love like when the guy you are dating will head out with you and the kids to Speedzone or Chuck E Cheese. Or if you aren’t dating someone, do a craft project with your children. Some easy ideas are to create the Candygram or Valentine’s Day card box for your kids with craft items and a shoebox. Or how about a making party boxes for kids in need. Family to Family has an idea for families with Birthday Giving Parties. Spend the holiday creating parties in a box for needy kids.
How about accomplishing something this Valentine’s Day? In a previous post I talked about single moms treating themselves on Valentine’s Day. Find something that makes you happy and do it. When you accomplish it, treat yourself. I am volunteering this weekend for the North Texas Food Bank and I’m also volunteering for the American Red Cross. Find a special cause or just donate your time reading to a child or cleaning up a park. It will make you feel better inside that you contributed to something and made a difference.
Watch a NetFlix or Movie Marathon?
Game of Thrones: The Complete Third Season Limited Edition is coming out on February 18th – Oh Wait that is my ex’s favorite show. Find a series that you would love to watch and watch the entire season in one night on Valentine’s Day. I got rid of cable and so I fell in love with the show The White Queen on the Starz Network so I plan on watching everything there is to know about treachery, power, prestige and sex on Valentine’s Day. I signed up for Amazon Prime and I found it way better than Hulu Plus for providing access to the latest television series and movies from the cable networks. Of course you have to pay $79 for the year, but for me it’s worth it.
Don’t worry about not getting flowers
I used to sell flowers for a major florist. Every year tons of people would call in to order flowers and most often they heard a promo code on the radio and so when they called in our job as salespeople was to upsell them. If they called at the last minute, we charged extra for next day or 2 day delivery. Most guys had no clue what to put on the card so we had pre-written notes for the card that we selected from. I would say 90% of guys that called in had no clue what they wanted, they just wanted the best deal or the promotion they heard on the radio. A few would have scriptures or something in their mind they already wrote out. Some guys bought flowers for multiple women and wrote the same thing on all the cards. The emphasis on the holiday should be with the people you love and not the flowers or the stuff that is bought. So DON”T buy yourself flowers and have them delivered to yourself (I fielded those calls too). It’s a waste of money and time. A man should buy you your favorite flowers and if he doesn’t know he should ask which ones you like the most. I have always loved light pink roses or exotic tropical flowers that remind me of home and I have yet to get those given to me so I buy them myself.
One person I spoke with summed it up best:
“I buy my gf flowers on a regular basis (at least once a month) and i don’t do the cookie cutter / cliched stuff. I know what she likes, what smells good to her.”
Build your Foreseeable YOU!
Are you still trying to create the best you? Build your vision board that day, write in a journal or do something creative. There is a lot that you can do to build a better you on Valentine’s Day. Take some time to reflect on your life and review your resolutions or goals. Remind yourself why you set those goals in the first place. Are those goals still in alignment with your needs? I’ve spoken about goals before, so don’t take your eyes off the prize.
What other tips do you have for singles on Valentine’s Day?
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