If you are a single parent that has experienced divorce and/or child custody battles, than this section will provide you the necessary tools and information that you may need to empower yourself as you go through this process. In many cases, it’s not a done deal once the judge hits their gavel. It’s a continually evolving process that doesn’t end as soon as your child turns 18. I have had many of my own battles with divorce and have experienced the following things:
1) Separation and Divorce
2) Child custody battles up to and including visitation scheduling, education and religious conflicts, determining extracurricular activities, medical and dental decisions and more
3) Child Custody modifications
4) Child Protective Services and More!
This does not replace the advice that is NECESSARY from a licensed legal professional or from a licensed therapist. These are my opinions based upon my experiences.
There’s a lot more that you can learn in this forum and my goal is to create an open dialogue or at least an open window so that you can see the bigger picture from the everyday issues that involved divorce.
Dallas Single Mom’s Top 5 Books on Divorce and Coparenting
- Co-Parenting Nightmare
- How to Parent Successfully with your Ex! Even if They’re a Jerk! by Jill Darcey
- Avoid the Ten Biggest Divorce Mistakes
- Cooperative Parenting and Divorce Parent’s Guide
Dallas Single Mom’s Favorite online Articles about Co-parenting
“Your Child is Not your Friend” by James Lehman, MSW – One of my favorite articles about what your role is as a parent. You are not your child’s friend. Your child is not your confidante.
It’s a very well-meaning trap that parents fall into. . . . But it’s ineffective because the child is not morally, emotionally or intellectually prepared to play that role. If you’re forty years old and you want a confidante, find another forty-year-old. Find a fifty-year-old. Find a thirty-five-year old. But don’t look for a ten-year-old or a thirteen-year-old or a five-year-old.
As divorced parents trying to co-parent, ex-husbands and ex-wives both try to be the confidante to the child. Both parents want to point out things that might be wrong with the other parents and for the most part they might be accurate, however the child may not be emotionally mature enough to react to it properly. When a parent decides to treat the child as a confidante and share their feelings about the other parent, empowers the child to attack the parent.
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