Almost all parents mean well, but they may not communicate or act out their intentions effectively. This can be because they may lack experience or parenting skills or for any other reason. Inefficient parenting can stunt the child’s development and even skew his thinking abilities. Here are a few strategies that can help you become a more confident parent.
Learn The Core Principles Of Parenting
A parent must adopt a style that is unique to his child’s needs. He must reconcile his parenting practices with his values and must face every concern and challenge without taking it out on the child. For example: a father has undergone a reverse vasectomy after remarriage but he is not successful in getting his spouse pregnant. He may then vent his frustrations on the family, which may stunt his step-child’s growth. So, ever parent must define his parenting core principles and ensure that no one in the family gets hurt by his parenting style.
Every adult may have his own ideas and beliefs about children and parenting. Preconceived notions can impact the way parents interpret and act on information, for e.g., maybe the parent’s childhood experiences are influencing his parenting, or maybe his troubled first marriage weighs heavily on his mind. It is important that every parent understands where his beliefs are coming from and how they are influencing his parenting. If required, parents should make appropriate corrections.
Knowing V/S Doing
There’s plenty of free parenting advice available all over the Internet and on parenting forums. But then there’s a world of difference between knowing and doing. It doesn’t matter what we think – what matters to kids is what we do and say, and the way we do it. So, while knowledge is important, converting it into words and actions is extremely important. Parents must realize this as they bring up their children.
Controlling Behavior V/S Developing Character
Many parents focus on controlling their child’s misbehavior instead of spending time on developing his character. They should do their best and understand why the child is behaving badly, and instead of punishing him, they should focus on improving his value system. If the child develops character, he may stop misbehaving. If at all the child has to be punished, the parent can consider delivering disciplinary measures that are non-punitive.
There are at least two-three humans involved in parenting (father and/or mother, child) and every human is a unique, complex animal. Therefore, parenting can be challenging and dynamic. Every parent comes across many situations that seem difficult to resolve. However, parents need to be creative, think out-of-the-box and conjure up a systematic resolution that makes everyone happy.
Parents should learn to communicate effectively and think of themselves as life coaches. They should try and maximize their own and their child’s potential by having authentic and open discussions with their children. They should try and help resolve their child’s issues instead of resorting to punitive measures. They should, if they feel the need, also meet other parents and take their feedback. Finally, parents can keep evaluating their parenting strategies to correct their mistakes. They should ideally keep evolving until they feel that they have become better parents.
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Johnathan P. Williams, a father, blogger and entrepreneur who was able to conceive children again in his second marriage after receiving a vasectomy reversal fromin Fort Gibson, OK.
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