I have a coworker who is great at coming up with poetry at a moment’s notice. They are usually funny and exaggerate attributes or situations involving coworkers. It definitely lightens the mood and people at work feel appreciated when she sends them one of her poems. Definitely politically correct but it makes work lighthearted and fun. Well the other day, I was captivated by the writing of my love interest. Bradford, as we will call him, is dreamy – I told my mother that he is TOO sexy and TOO handsome – – and that got me worried. Women tend to get a little self-conscious wondering if someone so dreamy could really be that interested in them especially if you’ve only met losers for awhile. There is nothing wrong with exercising a bit of caution every now and again to evaluate one another on a different level.
Who is Bradford?
He makes me swoon. He dresses and fits in his suits like Don Draper and he looks like the guys on my vision board. I had forgotten about my vision board until a few days ago and low and behold check out the photos of the guys on it: Helio Castroneves (Indy Car Driver) , Matt Mccalister (Owner of FT33 Dallas) and Russian motorsport driver, Roman Rusinov (G-Drive Racing). Basic looks are still in line with the post I wrote awhile ago about finding love in 27 days and the physical characteristics of my perfect partner. There is more than looks with Bradford it’s really the small things that he does. The way he carries himself, his absolute adoration for me and the way he speaks. This was when I found out how great of a writer and a communicator he was. He’s a refreshing change from what I’m used to dating – men unwilling to unleash their creative spirit and Bradford is a breath of fresh air.
What kind of writer am I?
I think one of the things that helps a person get through their individual struggles is creativity. For me writing is an outlet and when you meet someone that challenges you in ways far beyond the physical it causes you to question where you are in your life now. This is how I feel with Bradford. It’s difficult for me to talk about these strong feelings because I had considered myself the classic commitment-phobe. Most single mothers are as we lead our day to day lives too busy for the emotional comforts that a partner can present to us. In his words he says, “ I’m convinced that you can write the next juicy sex novel and be famous. You have tremendous insight into people and characters.”
One of the most romantic things anyone has ever said about me and yet many men in my life have read my writing and it spoke to them. So when you decide to write to your loved one, what kind of writer do you want to present?
Communication with your lover
Whether it’s poetry, journal writing or even a short story the ability to tap into this rich resource of intimacy is a very rewarding experience. I must admit that I am new at all of this. My writing has been very personal and I’m afraid of criticism. Sharing it is also very liberating and tapping into something new can create a new found purpose which brings a new lever of intimacy and attractiveness to a new or existing relationship. I’m seeing it unfold with my own eyes so how do you tap into that inner creativity.
Write! Write! Write! – Free write your thoughts onto paper, a private journal. Don’t just write about their looks or their positive attributes but write about how you feel. Write in depth about your day to day activities with them. Think about how you felt at those times or how you feel remembering those times. Then write it down.
We get afraid to share our experiences but the more we can share the better apt we are to communicate. We can talk about our feelings, our misunderstandings and work through problems. Just put pen to paper and see what unfolds.
Don’t be afraid to share
Don’t be afraid to share it. A person that truly loves you will appreciate it. A person that is secure in themselves won’t take your poetry as weird. They will appreciate the gift and want to propel you further. Use metaphors. If they make you feel like you are on top of the world – describe that feeling.
Here’s what Bradford wrote to me and I’m sharing it with you. It’s beautiful and I can picture these events unfolding.
If you would like help with writing a love poem, feel free to contact me. If you would like to share your own poetry, leave a comment.