When you say it about yourself, it’s bragging; when someone else says it about you, it’s the truth!
I practically live by this mantra and I read this statement when I followed Jeffrey Gitomer, the author of the Little Red Book of Selling.
My experience with eHarmony over the last four months has been lackluster to the say the least. I met some great people just no real romantic connections. What I did like about eHarmony is that they seemed to have your security and best interest in mine. Like with all things, timing and preparation is key and you can get frustrated if you are unprepared.
Even though I did not get a connection I was looking for, I was very specific about what I wanted in someone and what I was willing to share. I met a great guy as a friend and hopefully I will find my connection soon. With eHarmony you complete a profile and through some algorithm they find matches close to what you want. However, I have found that
You Don’t always get what you want, but sometimes you get what you need!
If you are the least bit unprepared, you will come away frustrated or making a match that is basically crazy hell. I say this because I have had a lot of years of experience in this. Trust me! I’m finally at a place to state exactly what it is that I want. I almost wish online dating sites were like job boards. I could put out a job description and candidate profile. Then put out my online resume. I also wish I could have references and testimonials to speak about me on my behalf. I have found that people will say one thing from their perspective but mean something else. A testimonial or reference says everything about how a person acts and I believe it establishes great confidence and credibility for someone that may be shy or not as outgoing. Whether it’s a customer, a colleague, a mentor, a teacher or a coach – testimonials help.
I’ve decided to go a different route and put the focus back on my health, my routine and my career.
What suggestions do you have for the online dating world?