This is going to be a different type of advice post because this person asked me this question in person, but I wanted to share this story with you because I get a ton of emails from single mothers wanting to just up and move without thinking thoroughly about their decisions. Now this is reverse where this person made the leap of faith and is doing well but things from the past want to follow her.
Dear Dallas Single Mom,
I’m 26 years old and I moved from my hometown to the Dallas-Fort Worth area in November of 2013. I have my own apartment, job and car and it was a leap of faith that I came here for a different start to my life and to find my purpose. I have no children. Recently my ex-boyfriend who is 28, has been trying to get back together and wants to move in with me and start a new life here. We have been broken up for over a year. I’m not sure if this is the right decision because when we met he was living with his mom, had no job and was taking his skateboard to community college. He now has a job in our old hometown but when he arrives here he won’t have a job. What should I do? Should I let him live with me?
Answer: No. From the get go you had a life or a heart’s purpose to moving from your family and the life you knew – that includes past relationships. With faith and conviction you found your footing and your maturity to make it work. The man you need in your life should fit in with your purpose. If this ex fits in with that purpose, then go ahead. So far his track record has not shown the emotional maturity to manage life on the terms you have set for yourself. You can’t pay the bills with potential, it requires action. And trust me, once he’s already living with you it’s even harder to get rid of him if his potential doesn’t pan out. Let him move to Dallas and get his own apartment and then see what he has to offer.
Readers: Would you get back together with your ex? Why or Why Not?
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