A lot of self help books and positive affirmations really don’t address how useful anger is in our lives. I have often found that when I am angry my thoughts become clear and my mind and decisions can become more rational – as long as I think with my heart and feel with my mind.
There is a study I was reading that proves that some of the nervous circuits in the brain that are responsible for love are the same ones responsible for hate.
The findings could explain why both hate and romantic love can result in similar acts of extreme behaviour – both heroic and evil – said Professor Semir Zeki of University College London.
I’m passionate which means I react to both love and hate. I am a very intimate and deep lover and expect the same intensity from my partner. The problem is when I don’t get it, I feel betrayed. As I review the course of my life it is not a surprise that many of my exes despise me because I in turn despise them. That intensity in love turns into anger and my immaturity at being to handle heightened emotions causes me to react in anger. Which in turn has led to my own personal ruin in my life. Anger can lead to ruin and it can also bring you out of it. In a recent photo post by Elizabeth Gilbert on Facebook she goes on to discuss Ruin. Ruin is not something you seek out even though some of us do. In my own life, my inability to manage things and my fear of what others would think of me led me to make some life decisions that like a stepping stone led to my own personal ruin.