The Daily Message: SIPDE – a Driver’s Education Mnemonic Device for navigating life
I was angry and anxious. The only thing I could do is be fearful of what awaits me and when I have no control over what is going on with my life or my relationships then I lash out at others. Sometimes at loved ones. If you are familiar with what I’m talking about then you know that in the aftermath, it can be very heartbreaking to have to realize the hurt that you caused. It’s ok to feel those feelings. It’s not right to hurt others and bring them down in the process. This past weekend I hurt a dear friend of mine. He may have forgiven me but he has not forgotten and now we evaluate whether the friendship is salvageable.
Sometimes we go through life in the spiral. As my friends calls it. One of my trips down the spiral slide, my friend told me abruptly. “Look, you are smart and above average looking. What is the problem? This spiraling needs to stop because its inefficient and unproductive and we all know how much you hate inefficiency.” He’s absolutely right. I do hate that. However, it’s hard for me to admit that I have vulnerabilities and I hide it like I’m protecting gold and this affects my relationships.
That friend of mine accepted my apology but truly wanted to help me so he told me about a little mnemonic device he used in Driver’s Education. It’s called SIPDE. It stands for Scan, Identify, Predict, Decide and Execute. On the road of life, there will be things beyond our control. Where there is a pothole or a deer crossing our path, so will we face obstacles and challenges in life. We have goals and destinations we are trying to get to and we have loved ones coming along this ride. When we are open to what is going on in life we can see what is happening around us. We are then obligated to identify and plan for problems ahead. If an unavoidable problem occurs we must then predict the outcome of that potential problem and then make a decision. We make decisions based on experience and gathering information. Then we make a choice on how best to execute that decision. Remember this process called SIPDE.
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If you are in AA (Alcoholics Anonymous) you will be familiar with the daily reflection. These lessons apply to everyone since everyone has an addiction of some kind whether it’s clearly visible like alcohol, drugs, food, or sex OR if it’s intangible or unseen such as rage, anger, depression etc. This is the daily reflection for November 13, 2013
We ask especially for freedom from self-will, and are careful to make no requests for ourselves only. We may ask for ourselves, however, if others will be helped. We are careful never to pray for our own selfish ends.
ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 87
As an active alcoholic, I allowed selfishness to run rampant in my life. I was so attached to my drinking and other selfish habits that people and moral principles came second. Now, when I pray for the good of others rather than my “own selfish ends,” I practice a discipline in letting go of selfish attachments, caring for my fellows and preparing for the day when I will be required to let go of all earthly attachments.
From the book Daily Reflections
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