One of the things that I have found particularly astonishing in this video is how much the human psyche yearns to be connected and yet strives for individuality. I met a new person today at a meeting and she was longing for a relationship. Having been down that road and experienced a lot of heartache she asked the age old question, since I don’t drink and don’t like bars, where do I meet men?
If I had a dollar for every time somebody asked me that question I would be a millionaire. I have written countless articles and blog posts on this very subject and I have to say that like everything else, work on working on you and the rest falls into place. Find everything about yourself that you could love and be comfortable with who you are and then you’ll find someone that will accept you the way YOU love YOU! Hope that makes sense.
Anyway, the video below goes into detail about how technology has created even more loneliness. With the ease of online dating, it’s now even easier to meet people but with all the self help books we still suck at relationships. I believe technology plays a role in this as the life we portray on social media is not the reality of our situation.
So as I said before WORK on CREATING the best work of art – YOU! Who you are and what your interests are becomes the backbone of every conversation you have. Learn to love learning about new or different things. This will allow you to have something to talk about with new people. You can’t read body language on a status update nor you can read a facial expression in a tweet. If you are a single parent, this is harder than it looks. Single parents spend most of their time with their children or working. Dating and relationships can sometimes take a backseat to establishing relationships outside of the family. As the video represents, we sometimes want to put up a strong front and give the appearance that everything in our world is perfect. Nothing could be farther from the truth. Take this video and book with a grain of salt but I know the realness of the loneliness and sometimes anxiety and desperation that a single mother can get for adult companionship and relationships. Trying to be all things to all people and yet coming up short. The answer is not in online dating or a quick technological fix. The answer is in knowing thine true self.
Do you think technology makes us more lonely rather than more connected? How?
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