Producer and Talent Manager, Mark Holder has been involved in many film projects such as She Wants Me, Bad Karma and I Will Follow You Into the Dark. As a father of four – three boys and one girl; Holder talks about pets. They currently have four dogs and one of his sons wanted a puppy. So Holder talked about rescuing a puppy. In the interview, his son didn’t take care of the puppy and they ended up giving the puppy away. They talked about this valuable lesson of taking care of pets and the responsibility associated with that. The latter part of this interview is about work life balance.
Actor Brian McNamara is an actor that starred in Army Wives, Grimm and more. He talks about school shooting and being aware of your surroundings. One of the things that McNamara talks about is that as a parent you start to become more responsible about what you are doing that can impact your kids negatively.
The Financial Challenges of Solo Parenting After 40
The 46-year-old attorney from Brooklyn, N.Y. is indeed part of a societal trend: Single women by choice having kids past the age of 40. … “It used to be seen as such a radical thing,” says Kipiniak, mom to a 10-year-old son and a six-year-old daughter.
Dallas Single Mom wants to hear from the guys. As part of a new “he said, she said” format for the Dallas Single Mom franchise there are some works to collaborate with some awesome single dad or experienced single dad writers. I think the challenges and the victories that go along with being a single parent can be shared by both genders and provide a great forum to bounce ideas off of each other. As an example, how do single dads and single moms differ on cooking for the kids? How do you balance chores? How about differences in opinion with your ex? Many of these issues will continue to be issues but how do we make life easier from both a guy’s perspective and a woman’s perspective. This will be the beginning of a new website devoted to single dads.
Here are some FAQ’s I put together on the collaboration and questions I received from individuals:
1) You are female, what do you know about single dads?
I date them. I am friends with single dads. I know nothing about what their lives are like which is why I’m asking for writers and contributors. My main goal is to run the site, market the site and provide valuable information to both single moms and dads.
2) Dads don’t read blogs, women make purchasing decisions and only stay at home moms read blogs.
Obviously this is not a question and it was a statement made by Controls Freak.com – Abel. I’m not linking to his site but I have the text message to prove his short-sightedness. Dads have relevant thoughts and are a major force in the marketplace. They make buying decisions and as single fathers, they pay child support and want some influence on buying decisions as it pertains to their kids. Don’t get me wrong some single fathers and single mothers don’t fulfill their roles as impeccable as others but don’t give up hope on a person’s ability to want to be a better parent. Fathers get aand single dads also get a bad rap with terms like “deadbeat dads” etc. I think single mothers need to champion their single dad brothers and work together to figure out that Mars and Venus may be planets but there are still ways to connect. Many single dads I know do fantastic things. One single dad I know is always conscientious of his child’s mental health and reasoned that he himself need therapy for his own “unwillingness to commit.” I personally believe in this day and age single fathers are recognizing their own emotional needs as more than just provider.
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While Bella is too exhausted to do online dating, Dallas Single Mom is on her umpteenth time on one of the many online dating sites that are out there. Every year (typically during winter) I develop this bad attitude about dating in general and tend to view every glance, smile and pickup line in my direction with a an eye roll and the inevitable question of, “What’s wrong with you?” It seems to go synonymous with my Merry Christmas greetings as well as my “hell no, I don’t want a kiss on New Years.”
Spring has sprung, March Madness is here and unlike the sports nerds with their iPads playing fantasy football, during college basketball season throngs of potential daters will at least look up from their brackets. Let’s face it, all of the teams they chose got eliminated in the first round and it is my signature Sagittarius self that is in a positive mood to cheer them up. It’s like getting ready for summer vacation and typically around this time I’m wearing makeup, doing my hair, and flashing a smile.
Spring comes around and it’s time for music festivals, spring concerts, walks in the park and travel. The patios are prime for dating and you are obsessively swiping left or right on Tinder and wondering what message notification will pop up on your phone.
I have been on the Plenty of Fish dating site which is free. A guy asked me, How is POF working for you? I said, “Would I still be here if it worked?” That is the truth. I proceeded to tell this kid on the other side of this message that, “Everyone is on here for different things. We are all a work in progress . . . remember that. I think if you are sure about yourself and not expecting someone to make up for your shortcomings, you should be fine.” Say smart shit like that, the message end and you hear crickets – C’est La Vie! That’s Life!
I get a lot of messages from the dating site that are either short and sweet, long and dumb, carefully crafted or a drunken frenzy of 10 PM Saturday night loneliness. (Their Part, not mine).
Spanish Fly in my Burberry
Burberry is my favorite scent and there must be some Spanish fly in it because it seems like I have been flirted with more than usual – in person and online. I love the attention but sometimes too much attention is too much. It gets borderline creepy. Take for instance the mild mannered pilot who is wondering why nobody wants to give out their number. I thought I’d give him a chance and give him my phone number just to get to know his personality. Instead this is the conversation he tried to have with me:
Him: Do you want to see a naked photo of me?
Me: No. You should get outside. It’s pretty.
Me: The weather is nice and you obviously need to get off the computer
Him: U Want to listen to me masturbate on the phone? Then I’ll go outside.
Numerous phone calls from him and then . . .
Him: Can you please listen to me? Please.
Me: Pay me $2,000 and I will listen to you.
Me: What’s your credit card number? (By which idiot proceeded to text back his credit card number.)
I blocked him with an Android App called Blacklist. I have found in this world that it seems people get an adrenaline rush from shock value. In my lifetime not much surprises me anymore and it’s pretty sad that these horrible beings have to ruin it. However don’t get discouraged since there are a ton of other potential daters out there who don’t have a need for shock value and are genuine.
Don’t pretend to be someone that you are not. Doing that is like trying to keep a jack in the box inside the box. The more pressure you put on it, the more likely it’s going to crack. So what kind of crazy confession would you like to make about online dating? How about confessing a crazy date you’ve been on? Spill it and share it.
To all of my single moms out there, I don’t care how much you make, do not pick up the tab on the first date. There, I spelled it out in black and white because grey is just not the color of the day. There are countless articles and blog posts out there about who should pick up the check, who shouldn’t pick up the check and that women should offer with the full intention of not picking it up. BS! This is one simple rule, the fellas pick up the check. (End of Blog Post!)
Why you shouldn’t offer to pick up the check unless you really mean it?
I’m all for being real and authentic in a gracious manner. I think it’s ridiculous to offer to pick up the check without the true intention of actually paying. The interesting part about it is that women actually continue to do this so that they come across as being polite. In fact a Glamour poll from 2009, showed that over 45% of women do this. That just smacks of let’s start lying straight from the gate and starting our communication sharing by doing things you have no intention of following through on. That’s just so not “The Law of Attraction” and just creates an awkward moment during the first date ritual. A confident man should pay the tab without thinking about it. If a guy has to think about it because he doesn’t have the funds, then he should be more creative and suggest a different kind of date that he can afford. Grab a Groupon, coupon or something but guys pick up the tab.
Why single moms need to let the men be men?
This has been hard for me but I have a hard time letting men open the door for me. I have to tell myself to stop and allow it to happen. That is because as a single mother for so long I do everything on my own. It’s just a habit. Even Steve Harvey’s book, “Act Like a Lady and Think Like a Man talks about this. This is not about women’s liberation or feminism, this is about a guy that actually WANTS to be nice and a gentleman. Don’t take that away. Also, if you are like me and you paid a babysitter or begged your aunt to watch your kids for a few hours while you go out on a date, you deserve having your door opened and your date picking up the tab. I asked this question on Twitter and low and behold all the men started responding. David Yates over at @hg_radio is a journalist, home builder & idea guy. He responded to my question as follows:
@dallassinglemom We make a dollar to your $.87. If a guy can’t afford to take you out he should be inventive and plan a cheaper date.
— David Yates (@DavidAYates)
When does common sense prevail and you pay for anything on a first date?
So yesterday, my date took me to a museum to see an exhibit that I loved. I went ahead and purchased a family membership that I was going to purchase anyway but never got around to it but since I happened to be there I bought it. So we got to see the Titanic exhibit at the Fort Worth Museum of Science and History via my membership that I PAID FOR! So we both got into the museum based on my membership. This is common sense and a no brainer since I already bought the membership and could take a guest in free. Now I’m not suggesting you bring your coupon binders on your first dates, but use a little common sense. Also, as mentioned above, if you ask, you pay. Especially if you really want to see something and your date states or infers that he can’t afford it, then you take the lead and pay for it. Communication is not just key in relationships, it’s also key in dating.
Scott Braddock, a broadcast journalist and political analyst in Texas (Most famous for work with KRLD in Dallas and KTRH in Houston) said whoever asks for the date should pay. I completely agree and with that, and will in face pay if I’m the one asking to go out on a date. I rarely if ever ask for a date.
— Scott Braddock (@scottbraddock) March 31, 2013
Why you should not obsess over who pays?
I do not obsess over who pays because I’m pretty confident about what I’m looking for in a match. My online dating profile is pretty specific, I communicate who I am in our discussions and so the men that I date always pay on the first date. I don’t just come right out on my dating commandments and say “Thou Shalt Pick up the Tab on the First Date”, but I have never had a problem with the whole “pick up the tab” thing and I never offer to pay. If the guy suggests that I pay or we go dutch then I can guarantee you there will be no second date. In any case, I would graciously pay for my own meal and not his. Out of all the things to worry about with regards to dating, picking up the tab should be the least important. The key is being emotionally available and secure in yourself to be clear about what you want.
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In my household we go to church. I get a lot of questions from single parents that want to meet people but for some reason don’t want to go to church to do it because they are afraid of being judged. That is very understandable. Personally if more single parents went to church with their children, it would actually help the cause of acceptance. Try adding how you teach faith to your children and it SHOULD be an enormous responsibility as a parent to find a spiritual path or faith journey to guide your children to their best possible life.
How can I raise my children to make the right decisions when my path is riddled with so much bad choices?
Join the club, nobody is perfect. I loved being a Catholic but I could never truly understand what that meant since most Catholics are cradle Catholics and are taught based on punishment and retribution. I was seeking the joy associated with loving God. However, my path was not and is not perfect. I’ve made some relationship mistakes and now I am a single mother of three beautiful children. They will begin to grow up and assess situations themselves. As a parent, I have an obligation to ensure that I’m putting together the foundation for my children to know right from wrong, have the confidence to choose the right decision when confronted with life choices, and to know that they are in an environment that is safe for them to make a mistake.
The introduction of God in your family
On my Facebook page, I asked my followers about their opinion on the following subject:
To all my single/coparenting parents out there. How do you handle teaching spiritual guidance and faith in a divorced home? I’m asking because my ex husband was raised Muslim and not practicing while I am Christian.
The discussion became a lively one as people poured forth their experiences growing up. Many parents don’t have interactions with their ex’s on this subject at all. Some of the ex’s are not in the picture as is the case with my younger two children. My oldest is starting to go to bible study and she is getting exercises from Sunday school. She loves VeggieTales and loves reading scriptures out loud. This is my choice as a parent to raise my children Christian and the sense of community that we have at the church that we go to is profound and important. The Sunday school teacher is a former Kindergarten teacher in the school district. My nephew’s friends in the band play in the church band, and meeting people that know my name is just an awesome feeling. It’s that sense of community that brings us back all the time.
Single parents! It is ok to be upset with God. . . He doesn’t mind.
Many single parents will turn away from God. Their marriages failed or their spouses left, their children have behavioral problems and in some cases they are struggling financially. Some of it may stem from childhood trauma and events. I can’t begin to tell you the many times I have raised my hands up in despair wondering how much more I could handle. Then one day, I came to realize that I owned these burdens and it was my responsibility to get through them and come out stronger in the end. I strongly suggest that you get a spiritual calling or formation of some sort. You will notice a huge difference for you personally in your growth and maturity. The ability to use this spiritual formation to let go of the past will be like a weight has lifted. I have found that following a moral guide via the church has been one of the most significant ways I teach my children right from wrong, morals, ethics and honesty. It is the basis for how they choose to conduct themselves.
Discussing spiritual formation with the ex
If you are amicable, than it should be an easy task. Many single or divorced parents I know still go to the same church so the children don’t have a break in their spiritual foundation. However, in a situation that is less amicable this is not always the case. My ex and I are not amicable so we only communicate via email. I will provide suggestions on what my daughter likes such as going to church or Easter egg hunts at local churches. I don’t force it because by law he can choose whatever religious teaching he wants when she is with him. I do not bad mouth or ridicule other religions or my ex’s religion (Islam- not practicing) because tolerance is an important aspect and she has the unique opportunity to learn about another faith.
Keeping the spiritual faith strong on a part-time basis
So even though my child doesn’t get to attend our church regularly on a weekly basis, the children’s bible study has a scripture calendar with worksheets and activities. My daughter gets to study her scripture throughout the week. I also communicate with her during the week about what they are learning and of course continually pray, and practice our spiritual habits as a routine.
You can’t force your ex to promote spirituality or religion in their home. In fact, your ex may be so spiteful that will try to put down your religion. You can’t let that bother you since your concern is your child and not your ego. In my case, my daughter doesn’t feel comfortable discussing God with her dad and so when she comes home, I allow her to feel comfortable to express that love she has for God with me. I make sure I constantly reassure her the importance of God in her life. If she feels the need to discuss with me what her dad has told her, I listen with an open mind and allow her to disagree with me so we can talk it through. I use examples of what I perceive are God’s blessings on us. At such a young age, it’s difficult for her to understand or choose between which parent is right. Be confident that the actions you display or the choices you make going forward will be proof enough.
Discussion: What challenges have you experienced when co-parenting about religion and spirituality? What suggestions do you have for strengthening this process?