No one begins a marriage wondering how long they will last before facing a divorce lawyer. Spending years in couples therapy holding a struggling relationship together may not be the help you need. Unfortunately, over half a million marriages end in a separation or divorce.
Whatever the reason your marriage didn’t last, it can still feel intimidating looking at a world newly single. We agree with our guest columnist that a good therapist and a well-deserved make-over may help you rekindle the self-love you’ve been missing during this difficult transition. It’s time to find a renewed sense of excitement (even with lots of nerves!) about making it on your own. You’re no longer the second half of a relationship but an independent woman.
Here are three ways to embrace this next chapter in your life to feel like a brand new you.
Calmer Mind and Body
Divorce is a stressful time even in the most amicable cases. Your life is changing in many ways which can leave you mentally and emotionally exhausted. Rejuvenation of your body and soul is vital to keep up with your new or ongoing goals, work responsibilities, and adjusting to a different family dynamic if you are a single mom.
Outdoor activities like fishing, bike riding, or hiking are great exercise and a natural stress reducer. If you’re living in a chaotic metropolis like New York City, a much needed spiritual vacation can refocus and re-energize you. A weekend away at a yoga retreat or streaming a favorite meditative yoga show at home can help you release pent up emotions. Yoga can teach you to seek that inner peace you need during a co-parenting fiasco (or another court postponement) and breathing techniques to encourage patience and understanding.
Better Mental Health
Therapy after a breakup can be important to guide you through moments and feelings of guilt, fear, regret, or even relief. There are many therapists in NYC and right where you are who can help you rebuild your confidence and happiness. Your therapist may recommend cognitive behavior therapy or CBT, a form of psychotherapy that promotes positive thinking instead of negativity.
Surround yourself with loved ones who support you and build-up your self-worth and self-esteem. When you feel better about your life and your value, those around you can feel it too. Friends, family, and colleagues may benefit from your renewed attitude and influence everyone to have a more joyful time at home, school, or work. With the right therapist, you can create a program that is beneficial to your new independent lifestyle.
Positive Body Image
Loving the person you are inside is crucial to living a healthy life. However, it’s also important to appreciate and feel confident on the outside. A failed marriage might affect you in a few ways such as with future relationship issues romantically or platonically.
Plummeting self-esteem can lead to issues like anxiety or a feeling of failure which can lead to depression. It can take a toll on your appearance. You may no longer feel attractive or deserving of pampering yourself especially if you are spending more time juggling a career and parental duties.
A psychotherapist or mental health counselor can teach you techniques to be more comfortable with your body image. Becoming more body-positive can increase your self-esteem. Finding new ways to invigorate your fashion and beauty routine isn’t only fun but can lift your confidence. For example, wearing the right lip color like a gorgeous made-for you red can make you feel strong and beautifully self-assured. A fabulous fragrance that speaks to your sense of fun and pleasure can be uplifting.
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Go for it and enjoy yourself along the way. For more tips and advice, visit here.
