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His screen name was Matthew. My screen name was Lillian. Both of which are not each other’s names. To be quite honest online dating can be a scary adventure for some, fun for others and wrought with a lot of fibs and embellishments. For the most part, we both lied about our names and he lied about his age. On our first date it became apparent to me that this man was not the age he stated in his profile. As I drove up in a luxury vehicle I was test driving from a local dealer I had some nerves for my date. Would he like me? Am I dressed ok? Are these heels going to make me uncomfortable? I have learned over the years to keep an open mind about trying something new and to ALWAYS have fun.
As a blogger our first date could have been covered by one of my page sponsors. I don’t normally do this but the gentleman that NYScorpio is (his codename) he wouldn’t allow it.
Weeks earlier I had been dating a man who missed my birthday altogether even though he asked me what my birthday was three times. It was disappointing but I had a fun time on my birthday with friends so it never got me down. You can say that the next day I pointed out his oversight to THAT MAN. He never bothered to apologize and even got upset with me for getting upset. Obviously MR. WRONG!!!!! So when NYScorpio came along after we spoke extensively on the phone I was pretty confident on this new guy and I was finally looking forward to a romantic date.
Not just a lunch or a cup of coffee. NYScorpio pulled out all the stops and was romantic and continues to do so to this day. He heard about what happened on my birthday and let’s just say “The Rest is History.” He wined and dined me at a nice French style steakhouse in Plano where we ordered Foie Gras. I had the sea bass while he dined on a succulent rack of lamb. I did have dessert which I wasn’t too impressed with and later we went on a horse drawn carriage ride. He was a little antsy and it was cold. He was all about ensuring my belated birthday present wasn’t for naught. He wrote me back later to say that I was very understanding even if we were freezing. Of course I had my blanket, a staple I always carry in my car for last minute picnics and park play with the kids. We ended that first date with some drinks at a boutique hotel in Plano. The attraction was instant. But I knew looking at him he wasn’t the age he stated.
We all have choices to make and when confronted with those choices you never know what’s going to happen until you choose.
How our relationship really blossomed after I “set the road straight?”
“Pride and ego does not come before love and understanding. I think it helps bring us closer together as well as our families.”
Here’s the part where we talk about the lies. I looked him up and found he was way older than my comfort level. I took a deep breath and thought about it for a moment. With online dating everyone lies to some extent and some lies are bigger than others. I have secrets I wasn’t about to share with NYScorpio yet so I tried to keep an open mind. I thought about how we talked and our date and how I had never been treated so well before. So I gave him a call and point blank asked him about his age. I attempted to set the road straight and start off clean with no lies so that the lie didn’t overshadow how we felt. I told him I wasn’t there to judge but wanted to hear his side of it. So he told me that it was eating him up to lie because he didn’t expect to really like me. I told him I was ok with his age (he is about 20 years older than I am) and I knew that his intent was to meet me. Had he settled on the algorithm of the online dating site he would have never met me. While online searches and technology make for a great part of any love connection, sometimes good old fashioned chemistry does the trick. I think for me having an open mind and truly listening has made this relationship the most enjoyable so far. Pride and ego does not come before love and understanding. I think it helps bring us closer together as well as our families. He was instantly relieved about telling the truth and the key was “Not judging each other on those lies but encouraging the truth.” I have found it is very easy to let him know when something is bothering me and even apologizing and accepting apologies has been easy. We don’t hold on to our pride and ego in that way.
The Romance is bigger and better than ever
As we got to the holidays we continued to date and each time has been extra special. Even our age difference is something that I don’t notice at all. All of my previous perceptions about older men have gone out the window especially in the intimacy department.
He has a confidence (that must come from experience) that few men my own age has. Many men I dated seemed to be in so much turmoil over their “experience” or confidence and with NYScorpio I don’t get that at all. He teaches me many things in that area which I enjoy very much even if he has warned me that his testosterone is not as it used to be. Closer to Christmas he gave me a pair of pearl earrings and a necklace with tiny handcuffs on them – sort of a secret winky! wink! gift just between the two of us. It really creates that spark and when people see it, I smile a little and it’s a great reminder for when I see him again. He is very open and experienced in the bedroom. It would not be uncommon to try out some different resources to help with the passion.
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The Romance continues . . .
That and a bottle of wine are all the gifts he really needs. He has sent me flowers while I have been traveling and we spend a lot of time together cooking meals for each other, playing with his dog Toby and just enjoying what Dallas has to offer. We especially enjoy eating in and competing on who can make the best cheesecake. He loves to cook and he’s made me simple breakfasts and of course coffee! We both drink coffee like crazy yet we have never had a date at a coffee shop.
For Valentine’s Day this year he has bought me mini gifts throughout the month some that are cute and corny and some that are a little risque’. He can be sweet, creative and even poetic. He cooks me breakfast and we enjoy playing with his dog and spending time with our families. This is the first year in many years that I am extremely excited for Valentine’s Day. Even as a single person I always had fun on Valentine’s Day and this year is no exception. Celebrating your romance is easy this Valentine’s Day, just visit K-Y.com
How do you expect to celebrate Valentine’s Day?