Having children can take its toll on you and your body. It is important to remember you had your own identity before having your children so when you say you are just a mom that is not true. Many moms lose themselves after having children as your whole world and life now seems to be children. It is important to take time out from your day to remind yourself that you are a multi-faceted being, mom is just one part.
If you are desperate to get back to yourself but don’t quite know how to take a look at the following guide. You may find something useful there that could help.
Update Your Wardrobe
Are you tired of the usual comfy ‘mom clothes’? The leggings and the cardigan may be practical but wearing them every day is stealing your identity away from you. Before children, you may have had a glamorous wardrobe that consisted of more than one outfit. You probably had many outfits and shoes before the children came along. They might have made their way to the back of your wardrobe and been replaced with leggings, jeans, and baggy jumpers. While this may be practical and comfy it can’t be the only outfit you live in.
Try updating your wardrobe, there are many other items out there that are both comfy and practical to wear. You might be worried that you won’t look nice, don’t let this knock your confidence. You may not see yourself in the same light anymore as your body changed due to your children. Your body is still beautiful and you have earned it by carrying your children.
If you are unsure what to buy take a look at different styles online to see if anything takes your fancy. You could also take advantage of the personal shopper service that some stores have. They will talk to you about different clothing that you might like and then bring you an assortment of items to try on. There is no pressure to buy what they bring you. You might try an outfit on and instantly fall in love with it. This is great and a step in the right direction.
Change Your Hair
Like with your wardrobe, your hair may be suffering a similar fate. Is your hair quite often put up out of the way? You may find yourself booking hair appointments and subsequently cancelling them as you don’t see the point. You might think to yourself what is the point of having nice hair as it just gets pulled and is put up most of the time. Looking after your hair is important and you should be getting it trimmed or cut at least once every six to eight weeks. This keeps it healthy and encourages it to grow longer as well as stronger.
Salons can be very daunting places especially if you are lacking in confidence and self-esteem. A lot of people think they are filled with gorgeous, glamorous workers. This isn’t always the case, you just have to find the one that is right for you. If you don’t feel like you can attend a salon there are things you can do to your hair at home to improve it. You may not be able to trim it yourself but you can use products and sprays to help.
Find a good quality dry shampoo, this will prevent you from needing to wash your hair every day. You could also find a leave-in conditioner to give it a thorough cleanse and repair. If you fancy a change at home you can do this too. There are many box dyes out there that are great for your hair. Gone are the days of box dyes drying out your hair. Simply follow the instructions on the box and you can’t go wrong.
If you do feel like venturing out to a salon they can work wonders on your hair and transform you into a brand-new woman. Take a look at different ones in your area to get a feel for them. Be sure to check reviews before you head to one. You don’t want to go to a bad salon as that could be disastrous. You could ask your friends and family if they have any recommendations.
Or maybe make a pitstop by the beauty supply for a bit of inspiration.
Don’t forget that hairdressers can also come to you, in the comfort of your own home. Mobile hairdressers have become popular over the years as it saves a trip out. This is great if you are unable to find childcare. Whichever option is best for you, go for it, change your hair, you won’t regret it.
If you have been feeling down in the dumps lately then exercise could help with this. When you exercise your body releases happy hormones. Have you ever done a workout and afterwards felt elated and couldn’t stop smiling. Yes, this is called serotonin and it’s coursing around your body after a workout. Combined with increased endorphins, the body’s natural painkiller, you have a recipe for greatness.
Finding an exercise you can do and that you enjoy can be the tricky part. You might view exercise as a chore. This isn’t going to bode well as you have to enjoy it to feel the benefits. Swimming is always a great go-to exercise that is fun. Swimming is great because it doesn’t feel like you are doing exercise as you are completely weightless in the water. Swimming has many benefits for your body as it works out pretty much all of the muscle groups.
If you don’t want to exercise alone then grab a friend and exercise with them. You can go to classes or groups as well to make more friends who share interests. A great team duo or team sport is paddleball. You can take an hour out of your day to play this with your friends and have a great time. You can play it indoors and outdoors but be wary about using the right ball. A pickleball ball used for outside play is heavier, bigger, and thicker compared to the ones used for indoor play.
We hope you found this article useful in finding yourself again. Remember if you are struggling to feel like you, there may be a deeper-rooted cause for this. If you feel like you are on a downward spiral and the above doesn’t seem to help, consider talking to a professional and getting guidance from someone who is trained to assist.