For a lot of people, the holidays come with a familiar kind of pressure. There is the early alarm, the cooking marathon, the tidy house, and the expectation that everyone should be entertained from morning until night. Add in the usual tradition of dragging out dusty board games and forcing cheer when you are already tired, and it is easy to see why some are craving a different approach. This year, one influencer’s blunt take on Christmas has put that desire into words.
Perrie Sian, who is 34, sparked a wave of reactions after sharing a clip from her podcast Can I be candid? that took off on TikTok. In the snippet, she explains that she and her fiancé Ricci Mandal have decided to have what she calls a selfish Christmas. The idea is simple and unapologetic, and that honesty is exactly what made it resonate. She argues that people do not talk enough about choosing a holiday that actually feels good for you.
Her version of the day is the opposite of the usual schedule. She says they plan to sleep in and get up sometime between 10 and 11, rather than waking at dawn to do the gift opening routine. She also makes it clear that she does not want visitors, delivering the message with the dry humor her followers love. In other words, their home will be a closed set, and the plan is to keep it calm.
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One of her biggest no thank yous is the classic Christmas game session. She jokes that she has played enough games in her life, and she does not understand why the holiday comes with a rule that you must play something to prove you had fun. Ricci pushes the banter further by asking if they will sit in silence all day, and Perrie leans into it by calling that her idea of a perfect Christmas. The punchline lands because it highlights how exhausting performative togetherness can feel.
The clip quickly pulled in more than 223,000 views and a flood of comments from people who felt seen. Some admitted they already celebrate in a similar way, while others sounded openly jealous of the peace and lack of expectations. One person said they were skipping cooking altogether and heading to a restaurant, while another cheered the part about not wanting to play games. A new parent also chimed in, joking about hiding upstairs while visitors arrive to meet the baby, which captured the reality that not everyone can opt out so easily.
Would you try a selfish Christmas, or does your ideal holiday still include the full house and the usual traditions? Share your thoughts in the comments.
